Happy 1st Birthday, Duncan!

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[Photos by Happy Days Photography TO]

Our sweet baby boy is 1 year old today! And what a year it has been. At one year old, little Duncan is well on his way to becoming a toddler. He was sick for a week, and during that week it reminded me of our early days with him. Lots of snuggles, lots of crying, lots of sleeping and very little moving around. Poor little guy. I did enjoy the snuggles though.

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Now that he’s well again, it’s as if he’s taken a big leap forward in his development. He’s walking more than he’s crawling and he understands more than ever before. When we ask, he’ll give toys, or nibbles of his snacks, or hugs. I ask for lots of hugs. And he gives the most wonderful hugs with a big squeeze. And his kisses. Big, open mouth, wet kisses. Often when I’m putting him to bed, he’ll grab my face and eat my chin and cheeks in kisses. It’s cute because he’s a baby.

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After Duncan goes to bed, no matter how long and tiring the day was, Mike and I inevitably say to each other, “He’s so cute!” And he is. And he’s fun, and he’s funny. Since he has been able to smile, he laughs easily.  And since he started laughing, he’s so quick to laugh. He has several different laughs, and I love them all.

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There’s the little giggle that emerges when he finds pleasure in the most ordinary of things. The chuckle we hear every single time we carry him down the stairs of our apartment building. I like that he thinks it’s something special we’re doing just to make him happy. It’s the chuckle I hear when I’m feeding him, and I know that our cat, Josie, must have come in behind me. He adores Josie, and she tolerates him. He loves to rest his face in her fluffy fur, and I’m certain he’s so determined to walk solely so he can better chase her.

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There’s the laughter of tickles, or being flown through the air, or when daddy blows raspberries on his belly. The laughter that goes on for so long and gets so hysterical that I sometimes have to intervene, “Give him a break, he can hardly handle it!” But then the shrieks of laughter continue and we laugh with him, saying “No one’s even touching you!” And the laugh I find most hilarious is his forced chuckle that is purely for our sake. The laugh he gives when he doesn’t find us at all funny, but want to acknowledge our efforts. Thanks, Dunc. Continue Reading

Birthday month stalled my weight loss (and why I’m ok with that)

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March is birthday month in my group of friends, so we’ve been doing a lot of eating, dancing, drinking and celebrating lately!

For my own birthday, we went to Boots and Bourbon, a local country bar. Unfortunately I didn’t get a chance to ride the mechanical bull, but I had such an amazing time with all my friends that came out. I felt so loved. Thanks, y’all!

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The downside of a month packed full of celebratory occasions, is that my weight loss progress totally stalled. It wasn’t just birthday eats, but also some stress-eating during a few emotional low points (wedding planning! work! friends! life!), which sabotaged my weight loss this month.

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But I’m OK with it. I still tracked things pretty consistently on MyFitnessPal.com and stuck with my running program. Rather than letting myself get discouraged because I didn’t lose any weight all month, I focused on the positive progress I’ve been making (running 5K like it’s no big deal now, yeah!). And honestly, just that is progress in itself. Losing weight without being crazy about losing weight is just as big of a goal as dropping those pounds.

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Especially when trying to lose only a small amount of weight, the difference between maintaining and losing is only a few hundred calories per day, so it’s really easy to go over, especially when birthday cupcakes are thrown into the mix. A few extra dinners out on the town and an extra slice of cake can spell the difference between losing weight or not, or even gaining. So while the difference between losing, maintaining, or gaining can be super teeny tiny, the difference between losing my sh*t and just taking it all in stride is the biggest deal ever.


Some days, weeks and months I’ll be able to stick to my diet and lose weight, and other times it just won’t happen. It could be social events, stress, hormones or a combination of all those things, like it was this month, but life happens and feeling bad about it isn’t going to help anything (and usually only makes things worse!). Weight loss isn’t linear, and the ups and downs are part of the process. The best thing I can do is just keep tracking, and keep coming back to my goals and keep working on my relationship with food.


Another thing that I’m hoping will help me stick to my goals without getting totally crazy around food is Kimberly Snyder’s new book, Beauty Detox Power! I love her advice regarding super healthy food, but losing weight would be easy if it was JUST about the food.

The reason many of us run into trouble is because our relationships with food are SO COMPLICATED! And Kimberly Snyder’s new book promises to cover so much more about the mind-body connection. Can’t wait to learn more!

Also, with pre-order, Kimberly Snyder is offering the most insane giveaway including a chance to win 15 Vitamix blenders and a trip to Mexico! AND SO MUCH MORE.

Click here for all the details!

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